First and foremost, I must apologise for being slack. The truth is, packing and packing and more packing! And I have now moved into a new flat here in London.
And no matter how old I am, everytime my parents move away from my front door having dropped me off in some unknown destination, there is a lump in my throat and tears at the back of my eyes. It makes me realise just how close we are, to feel it each and every time.
See, even whores have emotions..
Enough!
Single is the new double. I think this applies to relationships, to beds and most importantly to virgins ( and how to be a merry one)
My current room has a single bed. I would love to bring someone back here. Whereas the double and kingsize beds in the world are appealing to the eyes, the grand open space, where you could hump for hours on end in every position imaginable...the single bed forces proximity. The double bed forces, in comparison, seperation. If you are in love and in a full blown relationship, the double might be the way forward,( for purposes of hygiene alone). But, what about those of us who are craving sex, sex that is to hot and sticky and mind boggling...the single bed is the only way. When you get into a single bed, you are suddenly granted a right to hold the person beside you, to touch them (for there is no other place for those fingers to go) and to initiate sex whenever you pretty much want to. In a double bed, once you part after having made love, you move across the barrier to the sex-is-over-until-later mode. When your desires involve more than sex, find yourself a nice double. But for those of you (and i know there are some) who would never dream of bringing back a partner for fear of your single bed...let me tell you this. Whatever are you thinking??
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I agree with your theory on the single bed but answer me this.....if the sex is bad....where can you go? At least with double there is enough room to get away!
this is a very true account and i agree in its entirety..for we are all guilty of jumping over the barrier when the passion ends...i for one am one of those persons and if it wsn't for the girl who star fishes herself to sleep and takes over the world in her dreams i would consider a single bed...however to dream and to sleep is one of life's pleasures and a good bed is an investment that you make for life albeit over and over again for when the springs get worn its time for change.......if the sex is bad is it not because of nerves that you do not want to let your new partner down, that you are afraid of prematurely ejaculating and then having to face the embarrisment of being a bad lover, thinking that he or she will think the worst - i do not believe wih Samantha then again i have never been a fan - sex is an artform that comes with experience however even don juan (i imagine) never got it right first time and probably had issues maintaining an errect cock, so fuck me badly once should then go on to say that the second time i fuck you will be better untill you are at the stage that i know your every tender spot and that will have your partner cuming every time....
signed 'the corrupt idealist'
Corrupt idealist you seem to live in an ideal world when it realy isn't like that!!
First impressions are paramount, I think Samanthas exact words were "fuck me badly once - shame on you, fuck me badly twice - shame on me" I wholeheartedly agree.
You don't go back for seconds unless it was good the first time or at the very least it had potential to be better.
For someone who knows what they are doing nerves should be a problem. Why is that sex is simply about penetration, it is in fact a whole lot more, so what if you come too quickly or you don't stay hard?? men have two perfectly good hands will 10 hard cocks on the end of them. It should never be forgotten.
anonymous,
i believe you have misread what i was saying:
How can i explain - you have met a guy who is the man of your dreams...you decide that the time is right to take things further and the emotion of the occasion results in poor sex - a bad fuck!
why would you then lose what is the man of your dreams because of it!
the answer is you wouldn't because you can work on a better sex life whereas the man of your dreams might not come around again.
it might take ten bad fucks to get it right but when it is right you have everything you could want.
If i'm right samantha's character doesn't have too much luck in relationships....maybe she should teach not preach! and maybe sex in the city is full of shit!
corrupt idealist
Ok first things first, the men of girls dreams are not bad fucks so that puts your theory out of the window to start with corrupt idealist.
If a man is a bad fuck, you don't go back for seconds it really is as simple as that, i agree with anonymous the ONLY reason to return to a bad fuck the existence of potential to improve.
It is not the emotion of the situation that results in poor sex, it is down to the individuals abilities (or lack of them).
Samantha doesn't have luck in relationships because she doesn't 'do' relationships but she does 'do' sex. Plain and simple.
Corrupt idealist,
It's true, that sometimes nerves can pave the way for bad sex. And anonymous, what you say is true too, that the ideal man, the man/woman of our dreams would never have sexual inability, because then that would confuse the man of our dreams with the man we're actually going out with. And we should never set ourselves out for such disappointment.
But sex is so easy to learn, as long as you are willing to admit that you want to learn. I find it difficult to believe that anybody can be a bad fuck when considering the aisles dedicated to self help and sex in bookstores these days. All you have to do is spend one hour browsing the shelves of Waterstones and you'll go back a better lover.
Corrupt idealist, I get the slight impression that you are from the 'compromise' school of thought. But, put simply, why should be put up with somebody who isn't willing to train themselves
in the bedroom. If somebody was a bad conversationalist, you'd ditch them. Because conversation is important. If someone put you down all the time, you'd ditch them, because that's not on. Similarly, if somebody doesn't give you an orgasm, you have the right to question them.
Bad sex once can be forgiven, but if there is no willingness to improve, or to be honest about your difficulties then you need to find somebody who doesn't mind being in a relationship where sex can be bad (10 times, as you say) before it gets good. But let's face facts. 10 times and even you'd throw yourself off the matress. Sex is an important, fantastic thing. Good sex will take you to the moon and back.
Mould yourselves and your relationship into something interesting. And don't be afraid of pushing the boundaries. It's probably the best thing you'll ever do.
tainted visionary,
your choice of words pleases me!
its nice to know that you are finally agreeing with me....never have you spoken about a willingness to improve, just two bad fucks and your out...my point finally is as you have suggested...its not about the first or second time but about improvements all the way until you know eachother inside and out and can make eachother cum at the drop of a hat! and once you have done that AS you have suggested you push the boundaries even further!
case closed!
so what are you afraid of?
corrupt idealist (no longer anonymous i hear)
ok corrupt idealist, I will compromise and say that maybe you can improve on sex but I just don't believe in this practising until you get it right crap. Its simple...you get it right or you don't. I wouldn't stick around for 10 bad fucks until my partner decided to get his act together and imrprove and neither should you.
No one should settle for "oh we're getting to know each others bodies". someone either drives you insane or they don't. I'm all for sexual experimentation but NOT sexual practising, it just doesn't wash with me.
What are you afraid of?
desdomona,
yet another compromise thats two in one night!!!!
you get it right or you get it wrong - an obvious fact..there is no middle ground -
i guess the difference between you and i is that i would stick around, 10 fucks doesn't take that long for i seem to remember fucking i think three times on one sunday morning! if your partner is a shit fuck then it can only get better, after a week she would have gone from beginner to intermediate, and if the sex was bad but she was beautiful, kind, caring, affectionate, trusting, corageous and everything i could possibly want in a women then i would put up with a bad fuck and practising good sex would become a pleasure - the non sexually educated can be groomed into doing everything that you want with no boundaries! as if she knows better!
and i would practice it in a single bed, double bed or, kingsize bed!
corrupt idealist x
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